I friend shared this with me today and I am so impressed with the complete and total bravery exhibited by this individual. This had to have been hard for him to do and I am so impressed with how he choose to do it. I am pro choice in all things and all ways and I completely respect the choices that he is making for his future, as challenging as it will be for him it is his choice and his life. The link is below…
Anyone that reads this and is interested in ways that they can help this community and get involved I invite you to check out the Face Book group “Mormons Building Bridges”. This is a community with an incredibly high suicide rate, this is a serious problem. I lost two friends to suicide in high school and it is needless, tragic, and avoidable…
Well, you tell us that we’re wrong
And you tell us not to sing our song
Nothing we can say will make you see
You got a heart of stone
You can never feel
You say oh I’m not afraid it can’t happen to me
I’ve lived my life as a good man
Oh, no you’re out of your mind
It won’t happen to me
‘Cos I’ve carried my weight
And I’ve been a strong man
Listen to the man in the liquor store
Yelling “anybody want a drink before the war?
And your parents paid you through
You got a nice big car
Nothing bothers you
Somebody cut out your eyes
You refuse to see
Somebody cut out your heart
You refuse to feel
And you live in a shell
You create your own hell
You live in the past
And talk about war
And you dig your own grave yeah
But it’s a life you can save
So stop getting fast
It’s not gonna happen
And you’ll cry
But you’ll never fall
No, no, no
You’re building a wall
Gotta break it down
No, no, no
It won’t happen to us
We’ve lived our lives
Basically we’ve been good men
So stop talking of war
Cause you know we’ve heard it all before
Why don’t you go out there
And do something useful
Oh listen to the man in the liquor store
Yelling “anybody wanna drink before the war?
Anybody wanna drink before the war?
Anybody wanna drink before the war?
Love me some Sinead…war is a perfect metaphor here isn’t it…
This was shared on Face Book today and it was so cool that I felt the need to share it as well. I love it and it makes so much sense…it is just Awesome!
To tip or not to tip that is the question…
I’ve been reading about the tipping fiasco that has been circulating on the web. Some “Pastor” left a smug message and a zero tip, the server published it and thus lost her job. I have some strong feelings about gratuity…I shall share a story, a true story..
When I first met my husband I didn’t know a whole lot about him, we were just getting to know each other not unusual or anything. What I did know was that he wasn’t a rich guy, he has a lot of responsibilities that he took care of. The first time we ever went out the tab for what we had was probably in the twelve dollar range, he left a six dollar tip. I noticed, I wondered if he meant to leave two and mixed up the fiver? I didn’t say anything and we went on our way. After that every time we went anywhere where a tip would be involved I noticed that he always left a large tip, it didn’t matter if the service was good, bad or otherwise, it didn’t matter if the server was male or female, if it was a pizza delivery driver or a cocktail waitress, he ALWAYS left a big tip. I think this is a good quality, it reflects more about the person, it shows that they are generous and appreciative. He never said anything about it, I don’t think that he was even aware that I had noticed this about him. After a few months I finally asked him about it. He laughed and couldn’t believe that I had noticed, he was surprised. He explained to me that yes he does it on purpose and it isn’t ever a mistake, he doesn’t mix up ones and fives, or fives and tens, he leaves big tips deliberately. He explained to me that growing up his Mother was a waitress. She worked her butt off and he knew that there were probably a million other things she would have rather been doing than serving people salads and chicken fried steak. It was her job though and she did it anyway and the thought of someone stiffing his Mom and not leaving her a tip really just pissed him off. Therefore he will never be that person, so he always leaves a big tip. It is unfortunate that more people don’t see things from this perspective.
The minimum wage for servers is incredibly low, I think it is in the two to three dollar range. The person who serves you your food generally has to tip out the bar tender and the bussers, for making the drinks and for cleaning the tables. Then they keep what is left over, and they claim those tips and pay taxes on them.
If you go to an establishment that involves tipping, be generous. Just plan on it, if you can’t afford it then go somewhere that is a non tipping place, like a fast food restaurant or just stay home and cook yourself. Just plan on leaving at least a 30% tip, and never anything less than 20%, or just be really generous and leave a 100% tip. If its a delivery driver give them a fiver – “Drivers get Fivers”. In the end you are really paying it forward, earning Karma credits, you never know who will notice and what it will tell them about your character. I learned something about my husband that way, something that he wouldn’t have been able to explain, something that he didn’t even know that I had noticed – and it spoke volumes!
The other part, the smug message. Just don’t…if you must though please don’t count that as your “tip”. If you want to share a scripture passage or whatever and you feel that you must then ok but seriously leave a real tip…
I came across this article today and it fits perfectly with what I had written about. What a lovely legacy to leave! http://samuel-warde.com/2013/02/speaking-of-tipping-your-server-the-amazing-legacy-left-by-one-man/
I wrote this post months ago and since then I have come across two articles that fit in perfectly. Are people this judgmental and mean? Really? If someone is going to immediately pass judgement based on how a server looks then why not ask to be moved to another section? You are happy to accept the service but you just don’t want to pay for it.
A lesson on judging a book by its cover. I had these two teachers in school, they were actually sisters in law, married to a set of brothers. From all outward appearances one would have made the assumption that they were gay, both of them, but the truth was they weren’t. This was not lost on them and they were heavy on the message of don’t make assumptions and pre judge without all of the facts. They never came right out and said it but it was clear. In retrospect I’ve often wondered if they did it on purpose, their appearance that is, to drive that message home. They were both excellent teachers. The link is below, I hope people will stop this and just tip the server! You never know they could have a family at home they are supporting, in fact most probably do…
This is a black Gretsch Falcon, I want one of these badly! Isn’t it a beautiful guitar? It never seems to fail that any artist that I love, regardless of what band they are in, generally they play a Gretsch. Or more often than not they have a bunch of guitars but a Gretsch is part of their collection. Such a beauty!