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Another post about family dynamics!
How do you teach people that it takes effort on both sides?
When people, family members, complain because of whatever, they don’t feel they get enough attention, or they want x and you gave y, how does one communicate that effort is required on both ends?
And believe me I am fully aware, especially with extended family, that effort generally will be one sided and rarely reciprocated.
There could be a million reasons for that one, distance, time, age, those are the nice excuses. In my opinion I think a basic attitude of not really giving a darn is more appropriate and accurate but that could be the cynic in me coming out.
But really when it comes to family that are complaining about this stuff what do you do? How do you handle it? How do you explain that they sort of have to meet you half way, they will need to make some effort?
Curious to hear what you have to say so please share…
Home, finally…isn’t it such a good feeling to be home finally after you’ve been away for several weeks. I love going on vacation but it is nice to come home.
I will write more later about our adventures, I have a special post even to share, I went nuts and decided to create a purple palette so I might share that. Actually at this point I might just do a colorful palette or two next, then I think there won’t even be any more for me to add. All that later, for now just sharing a cute picture!
I was at the grocery store last night and the song by John Denver called “Rocky Mountain High” came on. As I walked from aisle to aisle everyone was singing along! Customers as well as employees of the store, it was hilarious.
When I hear this song I actually think of my kids High School. All of our kids went to “Rocky Mountain High School” so when I hear the line “Rocky Mountain High, Colorado” that is what I think of.
So I listened to it again when I got home and it seriously is a beautiful song and it is so accurate, it probably describes a lot of peoples journeys here but it is pretty accurate about ours .
The best decision Kris and I ever made was to move to Colorado, we have been SO happy here, we never plan to leave.
We are grateful that our children have grown up in a liberal place where they’ve gained a realistic view in life.
We love the schools here, living in a state that doesn’t devote as many resources to education then moving to one that does you really notice.
I think its truly God’s country, I am so happy that we live here! Its refreshing to live in a place where you completely fit in and feel like you belong.
The line in the song: “Talk to God and listen to his casual reply” I feel like that perfectly sums up Colorado for me, we were lead here, we are where we were meant to be and it is a beautiful place.
And yes you can get high here if you want and no one will bother you about it, its just an accepting liberal place.
I recommend visiting Colorado to anyone in the world who reads this, the Colorado Rockies are beautiful and something to see, and in my opinion much prettier and better looked after than the Utah side although the Utah Rockies are pretty too.
Sharing the song because it is just awesome.
Recently we were approached and asked if we would be willing to host a family reunion of sorts.
So of course we said sure, it isn’t exactly the kind of thing you can decline.
I have no clue how to plan something like this. Who stays where? Should I call a hotel and book a bunch of rooms? Do people figure that stuff out on their own? Invitations, do I send those or does someone else figure that out?
I am flying blind here.
I will book a photographer, I can handle that, because I think a nice photo is important.
Maybe I will buy a book about this or something?
So send me suggestions. What do you do? Have you ever hosted something like this before? What did you do?
I mean there is a local event happening which I believe is what is drawing people here to visit. A building is being dedicated so people like to visit the open house before that happens because once its dedicated you have to have a special pass to get in, its a religious building. So I get it, makes sense why people would want to visit, but I just have no clue how to plan something like this!
Please share and whatever you do have a beautiful day!…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
Lots of stuff is rolling around in my mind!
Where to begin? Drama Queens is a good place to start.
So is it just me or does everyone have a few of these in their lives? In their families? That person who always has an issue with someone.
That individual who always has to be going on ad nauseam?
That person where its always “and one more thing” and that one more thing is never just one more thing, there are ten thousand one more things for them to go through and even then it never ends!
That person who is just unhappy with life I guess? I don’t know what it is?
That person who only remembers the negative and has only pejorative things to say about the past, about growing up or events that happened.
And invariably their version of whatever, their perception of the event is always bizarre.
Seriously, is it just in my life that such a person exists?
For example take some event that happened a long time ago and involved several people, people who are and will always be part of your life. No one would ever expect each individual to remember it exactly the same way but there is always that one person who will only remember the absolute worst thing, the most negative.
They are incapable of moving on, moving forward, they have ISSUES!
I’d love to hear from anyone who feels like sharing, does everyone, every family have a Debbie Downer?
Moving on, Decorators! Not a whole lot to say about this other than I am in desperate need of one. I really need help in this arena at the moment.
Shambleton revisited…I feel like I am back in Shambleton! What is Shambleton you ask? It is what I decided my old house was called, I lived there when I started this blog hence the name. ( I posted this on both of my blogs Shambleton is my other one if you were wondering)
It wasn’t a bad house I was just sick of it and ready for a change, and a change we made.
I feel like I am living in Shambleton again though because I can’t make up my mind about paint colors, shades and intensities. Draperies, drapery lengths, curtain rods, hanging pictures, what art to put up and what not to…OI VEY! See I need a decorator.
We totally took apart our couch because I wanted it in our family room which is downstairs. To get it down the stairs we had to become furniture upholsterers…Now I kind of want it back upstairs and I KNOW this is probably a bad idea…so see what I mean SHAMBLETON!
I know kind of an odd post but whatever…share with me, share whatever you want…What would you do? Is the Drama Queen disorder universal? Every family has one, it is inescapable, or is it just me and my life?
How do you manage it? How does your family deal with the DQ disorder?
Any decorating tips are welcomed…
Share away and have a beautiful day!
Lots of stuff…
Rather than get into specifics I will just say this, prove it!
What was said?
Where was this said?
In what context was it said?
Because it just never happened, and when such an accusation is coming from a VERY dishonest person, a proven liar…just yeah, show the proof!
Unfortunately there are some individuals in the world who think its alright to poke fun at things that are utterly traumatic.
This is a low that I never imagined possible…this all came from an individual who I NEVER imagined was as evil as it seems they are…an individual who first lied about their identity which in itself suggests that they knew how horrid and evil what they were doing was, then continued to lie about it and pretend that they had no idea who would have said such things, then when they were caught just made up excuses for their terrible horrid acts and behavior!
How the hell does anyone get that way? Why? WTF is your problem? Seriously consider making some MAJOR changes if that is even possible at this point because WOW!
I have no clue why this person does this, why this person did this, why this person lies so much…why this person even reads my blog?
I don’t understand why anyone would want so much strife and conflict, why anyone wouldn’t just make even the tiniest bit of effort to make the relationships that God granted as good as possible, why on earth anyone would actively try to interfere with other people’s relationships? Maybe they want everyone to be as miserable as they are?
Not joking, the situation I am describing is one where an individual actually goes out of their way to make up lies and try to make other people unhappy!
It makes no sense to me and I accept that it never will.
Moving forward, it really is the only direction that makes sense isn’t it.
To be clear to anyone out in the universe I don’t criticize anyone’s children, or things that they have no choice in!
If I wrote something where you think that is what happened then you obviously read it wrong or didn’t understand what I was saying…
When people have done and said horrible things, when they’ve lied and lied and lied some more then it isn’t surprising that such a person would try to excuse their own behavior by deflecting and making accusations towards others…
Which is what this individual tried to do to me, but its all made up, never happened!
Just stop alright!
I ran across this article today and it is so nice to see that more research is being devoted to this issue.
I agree with the assertion that immediate and intense therapy is needed and best. I have a lot of personal experience with this issue, I will write more about that some other time.
This is one issue that the Troll thought would be a fun thing to ridicule and make fun of me about, yes you read that correctly a relative thinks making fun of traumatic brain injury is fun and acceptable. It isn’t, it isn’t ever okay to poke fun about something so serious, this is just a little public service announcement.
The link is below, I hope they continue this research, keep going…
Share if you feel like it 🙂
This morning has been all about prayer for us.
If you didn’t watch the multi denominational prayer service at ground zero this morning then you missed out. It was absolutely beautiful, beautifully done.
I love Pope Francis, he is my favorite Pope so far. I was also a fan of Pope John Paul II, mostly because of his underground activity during WWII. Also because I got to see him in person once, I was privileged to be at St. Peters in Rome on St. Peters feast day and the Pope came out and had a huge public mass and blessed the crowd, it was amazing!
But this current Pope, Pope Francis is more my style. I love how he is so realistic, he is so humble, he is just a different kind of Pope.
Kris and I had planned to trade in our car in the next few months for a new one, its just that time. We were planning to purchase a Mini Cooper, we’ve been planning this for a while actually. We were going to buy a Mini Cooper last time we bought a car but at the time we still had three kids in the house and honestly it was just a little too small, so we got the car we got, which I’ve really enjoyed.
Now I’m not so sure, I’m thinking I might wan a little Fiat like what Pope Francis was driving around DC in…It isn’t just because of the Pope, I had already mentioned it after seeing that hilarious commercial where the viagra falls into the gas tank, but yeah, maybe we need to rethink things?
If you have the opportunity watch the prayer service, it was beautiful.
I imagine its available on You Tube, I will post a link if I find one…
There is a term that has been being tossed about in the media lately that is not only kind of racist and offensive, its also irritating and yeah, bad taste.
Really? Seriously? Why?
Now does it happen that people immigrate to other nations and start or grow their families once they are there?
Of course it does.
Is this to create “Anchor babies”? Possibly in some instances, but honestly maybe they just are growing their family?
Maybe some people were immigrating anyway and fell pregnant. I think that if you really took a look at this you’d find the full spectrum of reasons.
If anyone is born in the United States that individual is a citizen, its just the way it is.
This practice actually goes back further than our constitution, and it isn’t going to change and why should it?
When I hear the term “Anchor Baby” I think of the cover of that Van Halen album. It sounds like a little gang of rebel babies doesn’t it?
Babies with little tattoos of anchors on their arms…maybe they could have monogrammed blankies with their logo…special pacifiers with a little anchor hanging off…little motor cycle jackets with a big anchor on the back!
Or that cartoon character on Roger Rabbit, that Baby that smokes a cigar, maybe he is their leader.
Maybe that cartoon character should run for office, representing all of the “Anchor Babies” out there.
Yeah that’s where my mind goes.
And isn’t it the most hypocritical and ironic thing ever that people like Bobby Jindal and Ted Cruz are out bloviating about “Anchor Babies” when they are both basically AB’s themselves?
Whats REALLY funny is that it probably doesn’t surprise anyone that they aren’t making the connection.
Leave the Babies alone, they don’t choose where their born, don’t go and punish them for decisions their parents made.
And honestly IF the US did do something like this, something insane like eliminate birthright citizenship then what?
What do you do with all the people who will forever be in limbo?
What if wherever their parents are from says nope they were born on your soil they are citizens of your nation?
What if no other country agrees with this sort of thing?
You would end up with a bunch of people in perpetual limbo, a second class of citizen or non citizen.
Even worse than we already have, and the current problem is pretty bad if you ask me.
No child ever should be held responsible for the transgressions of their parents!
Point being it won’t work, shouldn’t happen, won’t ever happen and is MUCH ADO ABOUT NOTHING!
Tell me what you think, don’t be shy…