There are literally millions of blogs out there for people to read and enjoy. People blog about everything and anything.
This blog as stated is just an opinion blog, random thoughts. I write about my own life and experiences.
I have a Troll who has decided that everything is all about her. It isn’t but that doesn’t matter.
What would you do about something like this?
An individual uses fake names and fake e mails to harass you and says horrid nasty things, even goes so far as to make threats.
Seriously try to wrap your head around this…A person goes onto some blog and inserts themselves into everything no matter what the subject is.
I wrote a post about “communication” and somehow that gets trolled. And all along this individual has been straight up lying and claiming they don’t know who it is, and that they aren’t involved…who else would it be?
This person has a big mouth and gossips A LOT. Things that have been said trickle back which is probably deliberate but who knows.
“Wondergirl” is under the delusion that everyone else in the world agrees with her, and I don’t know if they do or don’t but I do know that it certainly doesn’t appear so.
I don’t know what the solution is.
I’ve tried to work things out, I’ve tried to communicate and every time more and more weird bizarreness gets thrown at me, things that aren’t true or something that “Wondergirl” never understood and warped into something it never was.
WG warps things, more so than I’ve ever experienced. We’ve all known that person who interprets everything through a strange lens but this is different, hard to explain but you can count on this individual warping whatever it is and changing things around to fit into how she wants it to be.
One thing I do know for certain without any doubt is that WG lies and lies and lies some more.
Trustworthy she is not!
I worry for anyone who ever trusts this individual, based upon my own experiences.
Despite everything and despite all that has happened and gone on I still had a level of respect for WG’s other half. I never could explain this, I didn’t even understand it myself but at the end of the day I thought that this other individual held values that would lead to honesty.
They are both big liars!
Wondergirl is one of her Troll names so that is where that came from if your wondering. Although I think a name like “Fraudalina” might be more fitting.
I thought about this some more and honestly the more I deconstruct all of this and try to put it into perspective the worse it gets.
This individual pretended like she wanted to “make peace” and work things out when really she just wanted more opportunity to insult and be nasty.
She never had any intentions of moving forward, turning a page, making anything better, no I think she enjoys conflict, she likes to be mean and nasty.
I don’t know what anyone gets out of that but it must be something, maybe it makes her feel good.
This is someone who puts herself on a pedestal, justifies judging everyone with the concept of “righteous judgement”, isn’t any judgement just judgement?
I guess if you throw the word righteous or benevolent in front of it then its easier to justify to oneself?
Its one thing to protect yourself from anyone or anything that means you harm, its good to listen to promptings and follow your heart, I believe angels protect us and that we all are guided, but I don’t buy into the notion that some pious poser has some special license to “righteously judge” everyone else!
“Wondergirl” made a comment that she was going to “put my name in at the temple so that they can pray for me”, seriously…I can’t recall if this was before, after or right in the middle of all her other lies and insults that she was spewing and tossing about.
What would you call the other half of this?
Would “Wonderboy” be appropriate? “Wonderman”?
Because one can bet that he’ll be right there in that sacred place pretending to be putting names on lists and praying for peace and good things to come to those that they are insulting and abusing while they are not there!
I’m a believer in forgiveness, in fact I forgive quite easily, I’m probably a little too forgiving. My Husband says that forgiveness is necessary and important but only if the offender is repentant, forgiving the unrepentant is more or less just enabling.
I think he has a point. In the past I just forgave, I still had a lot of questions, there were still plenty of things that needed some resolution but mentally and in my heart I felt more of a sympathy.
In fact I think I’ve even stated before “your forgiven now move on”. There is no reason to think that a statement like that wouldn’t be misinterpreted, warped and changed into some weird thing that it isn’t. I mean it doesn’t matter what I say it gets warped by this person.
Maybe I was misguided here, forgiveness wasn’t warranted or deserved, and just like my Husband pointed out the lies and abuse just continued and even got worse.
What would you do?
How would you solve this?
These are individuals who will always be there, they will always be part of our lives even if they are just on the extreme periphery.
Please share your thoughts because I’d love to hear them…and I won’t be publishing them so if your a Troll with a fake e mail move on please.
I wrote a post about communication on my other blog that set off a whole chain of weirdness and drama. Put it this way it reignited drama that was old and unresolved.
Its still just as unresolved and just getting older but whatever.
My post about communication issues was accurate, in fact this entire episode is just more evidence that what I asserted is accurate.
What does one do when they are being accused of doing something, or saying something that they didn’t do or say? What would you do?
Would you say “no that’s not right, that never happened”?
Would you just ignore the entire thing?
Would you say something like “that isn’t correct but this is what happened, or this is what I said”?
Seriously what do you do?
A whole herd of accusations were thrown at me, I would have to go back and check but most if not all were not true or accurate.
I responded to one that involved one of the most vile individuals on this planet, a person who has committed some of the worst crimes imaginable. This is a person who I don’t know nor would I ever want to know…the vileness of his acts are so disturbing that the notion of anyone suggesting that I would be attached or want to be attached in any way shape or form to this person is what caused me to make the correction, to state that what was being said just was not based in the truth.
And somehow this is supposed to mean something else? What?
I had just ignored all the comments, we just weren’t reading them. Well we read them today and o boy!
I also wrote a post on my other blog about “oranges and aspirin” I might have used apples to illustrate my point I can’t remember…point being this is literally two different universes.
The way in which anything and everything that I say is interpreted is just so off, so not accurate, so weird, I don’t get it and never will…I guess I just am worse at communicating than I thought, or the person who is twisting and warping everything I say is worse at communication then I thought…Maybe its a little of both?
Honestly can someone tell me how do you tell if someone is “exploding” or “blowing up” over email? Is there a way to determine this?
Because I’ve been accused of this and that isn’t what has happened, in fact if I was truly feeling that way writing would be the last thing I would be doing, I would probably go for a walk or go sit outside and chill, certainly not write a blog post.
I think that people just read into anything what they want to be there. If I get an email from someone or read a message and I assume they are feeling some kind of way, and I assume they are inserting some kind of emotion into what they write then I will find it in whatever they wrote, even if it isn’t really there.
That has happened, it keeps happening, I don’t think there is any solution to this.
Hard to imagine.
Due to recent revelations and events I think it is time for an assessment, time to think about and examine exactly what happened, why, where, what it all means, and most importantly how to learn something and never repeat.
Since this involves relations there is obviously going to be stuff that goes back further and is deeper and is more involved. Most of what I have ever spoken to is based upon my own experiences which go back fifteen years at this point. I trust what I’ve been told and I trust the view and opinions of the person who has told me, but I wasn’t there before fifteen years ago so I can’t speak first hand.
This doesn’t mean that I can’t have an opinion, it doesn’t mean that I don’t know anything, all it means is that the version of whatever happened that I am getting is from one persons perspective.
What I have seen and witnessed however is that I saw one person go totally out of his way, stick his neck out and go to battle with people all on behalf of one individual. He risked loosing two important relationships all in defense of one person and willingly did this.
This person had nothing but good things to say at the time, if they had “never been close” or had so many issues from the far past she certainly wasn’t saying any of that at that point. Which makes me wonder why? and what was the truth?
Because I know what he says, and I know what his perspective was and it wasn’t anything near what she has claimed and asserted.
All to be stabbed in the back repeatedly and to have lies told, lies designed to cause maximum damage. That and to have the most traumatic horrific can of worms opened without even being given the tiniest amount of respect, not even a little heads up was provided.
It sounds like the whole world knew about this before we did, and one person who really cares did say something, thank God. But the person who caused this, who opened the can of worms never even tried to say anything. Which suggests the maximum amount of pain was intended, she wanted this to hit him like a semi truck.
What is really troubling about this, well its all troubling, but the worst part is this is the kind of thing that suicides are made of, this is that serious, and yet there has been zero attempt to apologize, likely because she isn’t sorry.
No attempt to talk, just excuses and the excuses don’t even add up. Oh yeah and then there was the claim that “lies” were being told about this which is not true, just because the individual that shared what they were there for didn’t see what happened when they weren’t there doesn’t make what happened when they weren’t there a lie, they just aren’t aware of it and didn’t witness it so they can’t speak to it.
This is going to be a long probably multiple post thing, I have to sort all of this out and process it all. There is just so much here to understand.
I think its important to process this, and to share so others can learn from this.
If someone else can learn from these mistakes then good, if someone can be protected or protect themselves or someone else from abuse then good, if sharing this can help someone with that then that is good too.
So this will be the first of a several part series, how many parts? I don’t know as many as are needed. I feel like this needs to be deconstructed from top to bottom, examined and processed. Then no more!
The people involved here will always be on the periphery, there literally is no other way around that, so processing and moving on in as healthy a way possible is the only option.
Ok, so I said I had been ignoring all the comments from the mean abusive person in my life…Well I just noticed one.
Its funny because I wondered why on earth she would prefer to discuss anything over a blog, it seemed off to me. I offered to talk over e mail but instead of the normal thing and saying alright, she went on some big thing about having us blocked from her e mail. Ok great we’re blocked, doesn’t matter, don’t care, but glad you got that out there.
Then I notice this little gem: “We can talk over email- that would be easier than comments on a blog. Just let me know.”
But wait, I thought you had us “blocked”, see what I mean what is the truth and what is a lie with this person?
I went ahead and published the comment so she can’t pretend like she didn’t author it.
Ok, no more, no more mean people! Seriously if your mean and evil just pass, find someone else to Troll and harass…