There are literally millions of blogs out there for people to read and enjoy. People blog about everything and anything.
This blog as stated is just an opinion blog, random thoughts. I write about my own life and experiences.
I have a Troll who has decided that everything is all about her. It isn’t but that doesn’t matter.
What would you do about something like this?
An individual uses fake names and fake e mails to harass you and says horrid nasty things, even goes so far as to make threats.
Seriously try to wrap your head around this…A person goes onto some blog and inserts themselves into everything no matter what the subject is.
I wrote a post about “communication” and somehow that gets trolled. And all along this individual has been straight up lying and claiming they don’t know who it is, and that they aren’t involved…who else would it be?
This person has a big mouth and gossips A LOT. Things that have been said trickle back which is probably deliberate but who knows.
“Wondergirl” is under the delusion that everyone else in the world agrees with her, and I don’t know if they do or don’t but I do know that it certainly doesn’t appear so.
I don’t know what the solution is.
I’ve tried to work things out, I’ve tried to communicate and every time more and more weird bizarreness gets thrown at me, things that aren’t true or something that “Wondergirl” never understood and warped into something it never was.
WG warps things, more so than I’ve ever experienced. We’ve all known that person who interprets everything through a strange lens but this is different, hard to explain but you can count on this individual warping whatever it is and changing things around to fit into how she wants it to be.
One thing I do know for certain without any doubt is that WG lies and lies and lies some more.
Trustworthy she is not!
I worry for anyone who ever trusts this individual, based upon my own experiences.
Despite everything and despite all that has happened and gone on I still had a level of respect for WG’s other half. I never could explain this, I didn’t even understand it myself but at the end of the day I thought that this other individual held values that would lead to honesty.
They are both big liars!
Wondergirl is one of her Troll names so that is where that came from if your wondering. Although I think a name like “Fraudalina” might be more fitting.
I thought about this some more and honestly the more I deconstruct all of this and try to put it into perspective the worse it gets.
This individual pretended like she wanted to “make peace” and work things out when really she just wanted more opportunity to insult and be nasty.
She never had any intentions of moving forward, turning a page, making anything better, no I think she enjoys conflict, she likes to be mean and nasty.
I don’t know what anyone gets out of that but it must be something, maybe it makes her feel good.
This is someone who puts herself on a pedestal, justifies judging everyone with the concept of “righteous judgement”, isn’t any judgement just judgement?
I guess if you throw the word righteous or benevolent in front of it then its easier to justify to oneself?
Its one thing to protect yourself from anyone or anything that means you harm, its good to listen to promptings and follow your heart, I believe angels protect us and that we all are guided, but I don’t buy into the notion that some pious poser has some special license to “righteously judge” everyone else!
“Wondergirl” made a comment that she was going to “put my name in at the temple so that they can pray for me”, seriously…I can’t recall if this was before, after or right in the middle of all her other lies and insults that she was spewing and tossing about.
What would you call the other half of this?
Would “Wonderboy” be appropriate? “Wonderman”?
Because one can bet that he’ll be right there in that sacred place pretending to be putting names on lists and praying for peace and good things to come to those that they are insulting and abusing while they are not there!
I’m a believer in forgiveness, in fact I forgive quite easily, I’m probably a little too forgiving. My Husband says that forgiveness is necessary and important but only if the offender is repentant, forgiving the unrepentant is more or less just enabling.
I think he has a point. In the past I just forgave, I still had a lot of questions, there were still plenty of things that needed some resolution but mentally and in my heart I felt more of a sympathy.
In fact I think I’ve even stated before “your forgiven now move on”. There is no reason to think that a statement like that wouldn’t be misinterpreted, warped and changed into some weird thing that it isn’t. I mean it doesn’t matter what I say it gets warped by this person.
Maybe I was misguided here, forgiveness wasn’t warranted or deserved, and just like my Husband pointed out the lies and abuse just continued and even got worse.
What would you do?
How would you solve this?
These are individuals who will always be there, they will always be part of our lives even if they are just on the extreme periphery.
Please share your thoughts because I’d love to hear them…and I won’t be publishing them so if your a Troll with a fake e mail move on please.
In fact this part took a turn to a place that REALLY irritates, which was probably why that turn was taken.
It also is just bizarre, I don’t even know where this came from really all I know are the accusations that were thrown at me.
So I was accused of referring to a group of people as “Mashugans”, I think I was being accused of saying this on a blog somewhere but that part I could be mistaken about.
Regardless of where it was supposedly said that isn’t a word that I would use to describe a group of people, it isn’t a word that I had ever even seen before.
I attempted to correct while at the same time I was trying to understand what this was about and where it was coming from. You see I am familiar with the word “Mashugana” and do use it from time to time…
Can you see the difference here? Mashugans and Mashugana they are two different words!
One I’ve heard of, heard a lot and used, the other the one ending with ans never heard before, never used, and until this little episode had never even read it.
So I figured the person on the other end of this conversation didn’t know what it meant? Which seemed a little odd but they spelled it the way they did, and the word they wrote wasn’t the word I am talking about here nor a word I am familiar with.
I proceeded to explain where I learned it…this is where this gets irritating to me. So I explained something about someone who I was very close with, who was amazing and a very important part of my life, someone who is no longer with us. And the nasty on the other end of this conversation decides to through out baseless accusations about me making this up?
Why on earth would I make that up? Seriously? I was talking about someone who was from NYC, someone who had MANY friends who were Jewish and spoke Yiddish, is it such a stretch to understand that they picked up a word or two and added them to their own lexicon? To me it makes perfect sense, and it doesn’t really even need to as I KNOW that this all happened and is true and accurate.
So this individual crossed over into insulting my long lost loved ones!
Yeah, its one thing to criticize behavior and an entirely different thing to criticize things people can’t control, don’t have a choice in, and loved ones who aren’t even here anymore.
This is the part of this that REALLY blows my mind, go ahead and criticize behavior all day long. You have an issue with something I said or did, something that can be changed or adjusted, corrected then bring it on! If contrition is what your after just say it, apologies can work and be effective when they are sincere. Instead its always so far below the belt, so out there, so weird…Oi Vey!
Maybe she spelled it wrong whilst typing?
I even asked my Aunt, my Mom, and my Sister about this and they gave me a big list of Yiddish words that Grammy used to use all the time. I thought about sharing them but not going to…not here. Not related to this and this person.
I may write a “Grammyisms” post some other time…
I don’t get it? Maybe she thinks that she is the only non Yiddish speaker who is familiar with a Yiddish word? Who knows?
The whole thing is Mashugana, I can’t think of a better word to describe this situation or the person involved in this!
These are the comments that came straight from the source that out the individual as the Troll…the individual who I believed wasn’t involved.
Beyond the medical issue that existed at the time, her spouse also swore that she/they weren’t involved and for some reason I believed him.
The other day I wrote a simple no big deal post about communication. It literally had nothing to do with person x, in fact if it had to do with any relations they were from my side, but not even really them either. It was just thoughts out of my head about communication online and otherwise, how easy it is to misread or misunderstand someone and “like” language. It was a very blase non controversial post.
It was Troll attacked and whoever Trolled it decided I was being critical of communication disorders, I wasn’t, that wasn’t even anywhere close to my thinking.
So I responded and asked them to just stop, its all on the blog.
Person x jumped in accused me of exploding and defended the Trolls behavior. I didn’t publish the Troll comments so how did she know what they said? How was she in a position to defend the Troll unless she knew who it was and what was said?
Maybe she just defends Trolls? Maybe any Troll that harasses me she likes? I don’t know, this is just what happened.
Defending unpublished comments is really only possible if you authored them, otherwise your defending something that you don’t even know what it says.
Going forward after I finally started responding. Events from the past were being rehashed which is pointless but whatever, its what happened. Person X said that I had “changed her comments”. I could go back and find the exact quote but who cares? This is most likely futile anyway…
So the “changed her comments” statement reveals without a shred of doubt that she is the Troll, she is Kim!
There have only been two occasions ever that I have changed a comment. The first time it was a comment that was disrespectful and disparaging towards my Mother in Law. The comment was made be Sean, I stated that I edited his comment due to the disrespectful nature.
I understand why Sean was upset, he felt like I was being rude towards his wife, which I probably was. Sometimes my humor goes places that aren’t exactly funny to some. I get it, I don’t even blame him and I respect the fact that he at least used his own name and wasn’t being a Troll and hiding behind a fake name. It is what it is but I won’t tolerate anyone saying disrespectful things about my Mother in Law, leave her alone! So I edited his comment, end of story.
And I have no problem stating that I did, in fact I wrote that on the edited comment.
The second time was one of Kim’s comments. Kim was obviously a Troll, obviously just being evil and awful and it was clear that it was a fake name and a fake e mail. So I edited her comment to piss her off, I didn’t see that it mattered or made any difference as none of what Kim was saying mattered anyway. It was a stupid internet spat.
Again I have no problem stating that I did this as it doesn’t matter, it means nothing to edit something that is meaningless.
Those are the only times ever in the history of the world that I have changed a comment, that’s it. So for person x to say I changed her comment she is also saying that she is Kim, or I suppose she could be Sean but I highly doubt it, Sean is who he claimed to be.
There are only two possibilities, the Sean comment which if what he said came from person x then wow, or she is Kim, because those are the only occasions where that has ever happened.
Also, person x played a trick on me at one point and said nice things. She pretended like she wanted peace and to be supportive and some other things, it was a nice friendly comment but it was all a lie.
I don’t know why, I don’t understand and probably never will but it happened.
In that comment she claimed that she wasn’t Kim and had no idea who Kim was which it would seem wasn’t true, it was just a lie.
Also, person x made some comments about head injuries, something about a PBS program or NPR or something. Somehow she is aware of a medical condition, and things about my life and history that I have never shared with her.
Where is this information coming from? Why gossip about it? And an even bigger and more important question why would anyone think it is ok to make fun of something so serious?
Why poke fun at something that is utterly traumatic? It isn’t funny, it isn’t a joke, it isn’t a place that anyone should ever go. It is stooping so far beneath the belt that I just don’t even have words. I could think of several things that I am aware of that are beyond person x’s control or choice that I could do that about but I won’t go there.
It would be like making fun of someone for having a big nose, its rude and nasty and it just isn’t nice. You don’t go there, they didn’t choose their nose, its all they have and isn’t something to be made fun off. That is kind of oversimplifying this but whatever, this is all probably an exercise in futility anyway.
Its one thing to be critical of something that is a choice like behavior, its an entirely different thing to make fun of something that isn’t a choice.
Its been obvious from the beginning, why not just be honest about it? What difference does it make at this point?
So there you have it, person x is Kim, Kim the Troll…were others involved in the Kim thing? Probably. I was told it was a group, a classic gang up mean girl style bullying. So there are probably at least a couple other individuals who are also part of the borg like collective known as Kim.
So find someone else to harass ok.
Ok, so I said I had been ignoring all the comments from the mean abusive person in my life…Well I just noticed one.
Its funny because I wondered why on earth she would prefer to discuss anything over a blog, it seemed off to me. I offered to talk over e mail but instead of the normal thing and saying alright, she went on some big thing about having us blocked from her e mail. Ok great we’re blocked, doesn’t matter, don’t care, but glad you got that out there.
Then I notice this little gem: “We can talk over email- that would be easier than comments on a blog. Just let me know.”
But wait, I thought you had us “blocked”, see what I mean what is the truth and what is a lie with this person?
I went ahead and published the comment so she can’t pretend like she didn’t author it.
Ok, no more, no more mean people! Seriously if your mean and evil just pass, find someone else to Troll and harass…
Something is rotten in the state of Denmark! I don’t really know what else to say at this point.
I shall explain…So anyone who has read this blog knows that I have a group of Trolls, haters who don’t know me, likely couldn’t pick me out in a line up, yet judge me and have a lot to say about anything that I say.
This group, and it is entirely possible that it isn’t actually a group at all rather just an individual drop in every now and then and leave comments and they generally revolve around a specific individual.
I’ve tried to respond, I’ve tried to ignore, it doesn’t matter what I do though these people or this person just judge me and assumes they know what I am saying and where I am coming from and that it is all nefarious and evil.
They couldn’t be more off base and wrong but whatever it doesn’t really matter, it is one of those situations that you just have to try to ignore and not worry about because there is no explanation, there is no understanding, and there is no resolution, no being nice. They don’t want that.
To have any of those things there must be communication, even if that isn’t always nice it still needs to happen and absent that nothing changes, gets resolved, things are just static…and this applies to everything not just what I am talking about.
Anyway, several months ago a was barraged with comments from someone or a group of someone’s who called themselves “Kim”. The comments sounded like they were coming from multiple people, there were differences in tone and language. I don’t know for sure if it was or wasn’t, in one comment they said they were a group and in another they claimed to be honest about their identity and just one person, so who knows? There were a couple comments towards the end there though that were shocking, I was a bit taken a back and they spoke volumes about who “Kim” could be. Those two comments are below…
January 23, 2014 at 15:21
Brain Injured Paparazzi. That is a better name for this blog. You cant win in a pissing contest with an incomplete brain. Finally we have answers and the truth is nice. Still doesnt justify your behavior, but it explains why you cant see it.
January 23, 2014 at 15:17
You are a narrsesist. You are unable to feel empathy or sorrow or relate in any wsy to other people. Thats what we are dealing with here. Well, part of the reason I am here was to figure that out. Brain injury I am guessing.
Yeah, I was told something this morning, well about a situation that I was previously unaware of. I am so grateful for the love and concern of the person who has been protecting me, I am seriously so lucky when it comes to that department.
The bigger question though is why, what, where, how? And, who does that? You can comb through anything that I’ve ever written with a fine toothed comb and I never make fun of or comment negatively about anyone’s kids, or things that they can’t control. Have I been critical of behavior? Absolutely, but that is something that is changeable, people choose how they behave it isn’t innate, behavior is all based on choices. You can choose to be nice, to be forgiving, to have a sense of humor, or you can choose to behave in other ways.
Making fun of things that are beyond a person’s choice or control is just plain evil, it really is!
I will write more about this later, evidently what I was told about is just the tip of the iceberg! Yeah, evidently there is a lot more, I just can’t even…stay tuned I guess…
So everyone knows that there was a “Blue Moon” the other day. This sounds so mysterious and cool but really it just means that we had two full moons in the same month. Well this second full moon had some effect on this blog because things went from normal lah dee dah to cray cray! That has died down now, hopefully and things can return to normal.
I was thinking about the term Blue Moon and I thought of a few songs that I like, well it could even be the same song just sung by different artists. I think I like the Cowboy Junkies version the best. I also thought of one of the funniest scenes in one of my favorite movies, Greese…that was hilarious. I never thought that a Blue Moon could pull them from the woodwork so well, lesson learned.
I’ve shared this before but I will again as it will relate to a few future posts that have yet to come together, I assign animals to people, so do my kids. I think it is a side effect of growing up and being influenced by geniuses like Jim Henson and Walt Disney. I blame them both equally. There are some people that I don’t even want to assign an animal to because they are more like air. This one was a struggle but Koala hit the nail on the head so perfectly, she decided the animal for this one person. So I’ll write more about that later.
What a pointless post this is! Mostly this is just to say hi, still here and not going anywhere. All that drama was just hot air from mean people, they’ve gone away now! The link is below for that song please enjoy!
I decided to add another song to this post…I contemplated giving it it’s own posting but really I just felt like sharing the song…because I love it and I love the band and performer, and it just makes me happy, doesn’t have much to do with a blue moon though…so please enjoy! ❤
I wrote this post a long, long time ago…After all the drama today I am a little amazed, you’d think I had a crystal ball or something. I’m being told that this is part of the cycle and it always goes round and round this same way, I am starting to see this. I could deconstruct the comments that were made and explain how this individual was just full of it, but why bother. It is so obvious who really wrote those things and who the troll is, the same troll that has been behind this stuff all along…
In the last twenty four hours I received a barrage of obnoxious weird comments from a relative. I think that the drive by shooting is done now and she has returned to the cupboard from whence she came.
Thank you Dearest Lord for ending the attack.
A manic episode? Maybe. Meds need to be adjusted, possibly? Some people are just weird and not nice? BINGO! The insults and jabs wrapped up in passive aggression are so fun aren’t they? Especially when they are topped off with the words “Love ya”…when a person abuses the concept of Love they are in serious need of help, whatever help is available. If I “Love” someone then I tell them, if I don’t then I don’t use that word. It just isn’t something to throw around and play games with, it’s not!
I’ve heard that I am not the only recipient of this persons “Love” this time around, the fun has been spread around this time. Sometimes with certain people you just can’t win for loosing. It is irrelevant what you do or say, they will always find fault, blame, whine and complain. What do they want? Do they want others to just disappear? Die? Be silenced? Nothing will ever make some people happy.
This person even tried to drag a “friend” into this little game. I suppose she was just confirming what was already evident, but I honestly would have thought that she respected the “friend” more than that. Like I said you can’t win for loosing.
Some family members will do anything for each other, others will do everything possible to destroy everything. Their definition of “family” is fluid, they change it to fit their current mood. Relations are disposable and ultimately meaningless to such a person. They feel like learning something about another individual is information for them to “act” upon. They can’t just know what’s going on in another’s life, anything they learn they use to create problems for people. Trust is just a word for them, they have no comprehension of what it means. You tell such an individual something and instead of just listening, understanding, just being aware they take whatever you said and run with it to whomever they can find to create the most damage. I’ve been told that this behavior goes back several years and has extended beyond family relations. That “friends” lives were dragged through the mudd by this person and destroyed as well. Tragic!
My kids like to assign animals to people, they try to relate the animal that they assign a person as closely to them as they can. They like to put a lot of thought into it, it’s a fun thing that they do and have always done. They are usually pretty accurate, astonishingly, and it isn’t that often that they change a person’s “animal spirit”. I love my kids and this is just one of the awesome things that they do that makes life just that more interesting.
With that in mind I feel like we are dealing with a Donkey and a Hyaena. I don’t have much to say about the Donkey right now, I am feeling a degree of sympathy for said Donkey. Misplaced sympathy? Probably, but I am who I am and that is where I am at the moment. The Hyaena however not so much. Hyaena’s aren’t exactly known for being brave and courageous, they’re sneaky and they steal kills from Lions. Lions work together in a pride to hunt and take down their prey, Hyaena’s wait in the background and steal it. The only time Hyaena’s exhibit what we would consider bravery is when they are in a pack and even then they don’t work together, when one gets the kill the others try to steal it and they fight over it. They’ll sell out the other Hyaena’s for their own benefit. I’m sure that they have some good qualities I just don’t know what they are, maybe they are just hidden beneath and these other traits are so dominant that they present as just sneaky and opportunistic. This Hyaena I feel collects information and just waits until the most opportune time to pounce and create as much damage and destruction as possible. Then hides out in their corner with their Donkey guarding the lair. Whining and pouting until the whole thing blows over and whomever has been damaged in the episode picks up the pieces as best as they can. Then they reset and do it all over again. The Donkey is just so enamored that a Hyaena would find him interesting and dare I say attractive that it forgets about everything else, the walls could be falling around them and the Donkey will do whatever the Hyaena wants. The price the Hyaena pays for having such a devoted Donkey is to surrender all control over the Hyaena’s life. The Hyaena isn’t even allowed to socialize with other Hyaena’a, just the Donkey. Probably worked out pretty well for a while but gets old. So this Hyaena and this Donkey are stuck with each other. I think that they think they are happy but if an individual is happy then why would they be so obsessed with destruction? Not just destruction, manipulation. continually making excuses for everything, for their own behavior and all the damage that they cause?
These animal descriptions may change, I need to think about it a little more. The Donkey I am pretty certain of, there are just too many characteristics that line up. The Hyaena, I am pretty certain but not positive…TBC
Some things have changed since I originally wrote this post, not much but a few things. I think that the “Donkey” is just one part of the individuals personality, the individual that I was referencing. After more drama ensued I concluded that we were also dealing with a Box Jelly Fish, spineless, toxic, and just something to avoid in general. I learned that Box Jellies have twenty nine sets of eyes. That would account for the internet stalking that seems to go on. Some of these eyes have blinders on them so it makes this Box Jellies world an odd place.
I am still a little torn however, I do still feel a degree of sympathy for the Donkey/Box Jelly Fish. It definitely is misplaced sympathy but oh well, this entire situation was never going to make a lot of sense. My reasons for feeling this sympathy towards this individual that has been rude and nasty towards me are very real, I don’t think that they are going to change or go away. I have good reasons, I can relate on some level. At the same time it doesn’t make it alright for these individuals to be so awful. No concept of loyalty, back stabbers, just plain unpleasant people, people that are stuck in the past, in a weird version of the past at that.
I like asking for advice on here. I appreciate the messages that people send me. How do you deal with unpleasant people? People that are related to you, that choose to be mean and nasty when they really don’t need to be? Relatives that won’t move forward, that don’t want things to be resolved or better, that seem to enjoy wallowing in the negative? What was your solution?